There comes a time in many friendships, particularly best friendships, where it’s clear that what used to be is no longer. This realization won’t come from anything drastic but rather a lot of little things over time. Those things will include new tastes in music, new kinds of friends, different styles of clothes, shifts in values, how you spend your time, and plenty of other small innocuous seeming things. It’s not a bad process; in fact, it may even be a welcome one. But knowing what’s good for you isn’t the same as what feels good to you. The grand hope is that you’ll continue to grow and become your own people and carry on a relationship founded upon mutual respect. However, even that sentence is far too formal for the modern relationships it wants to describe. And so you diverge. Text exchanges, phone calls, and meme shares get sparser. The laughs aren’t as hard. Hanging out together can feel difficult in a way it never did before. There might be an inclination to mourn this kind of friendship loss, but it’d be better to pump the breaks. It’s not like either of you died. You just changed and that’s perfectly healthy. Who knows, maybe you’ll find yourselves together years down the road and it’ll feel nice again. Will you be exactly what you were before? For a moment, maybe.
Who you subtweeting bro
Not you lol
Miss u bro!!!
Gotta hang soon!
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I highly recommend Hua Hsu’s book Stay True. One of the best portrayals of friendship I’ve read.